I have documented my struggles with coping with my closet (I know, total first word problem). So instead of complaining, moving, or buying more stuff to organize my stuff, I activated the six months to year rule. The rule being,if I had not worn it in six months to year it had to go (with the exception of professional work attire which I do not use at the moment). There was some stuff I had been holding on to since ’05-’06, for real, and to make matters worse, it still had tags on it–ya’ll! I am not proud of this but, hey.
On a mission, I blew off my normal workout and looked at this cleaning out process as cardio and strength training. I packed out several things that were just rags to the dumpster (2-4o gallon trash bags), 1 large Ikea bag was for consignment (Keshia gotta get paid 🙂 ), and 2 – 40 gallon bags for donation..I chose Goodwill. In the end I was rewarded with around 300 calories lost, $70 from consignment (this is a big deal–because I hardly ever pay full price for anything), supporting the mission of Goodwill (creating job opportunities for those willing to learn and work), and welcoming new space in my home, as well as finding some cool stuff I forgot I owned.
I still have a few other pieces I need to unload like some Vera Bradley & Coach accessories, and a pair of patent leather Cole Haan peep-toe pumps–I’ll get to it.
Once everything was out of the way I felt relieved. With the holidays and gifts being thrown around consider re-gifting or consignment to save money or donate to places like Goodwill to help others and your taxes.
October 19th is National Evaluate Your Life Day, did you know that? I learned about it this year and in honor I am having a small gathering with friends. I am excited to take this on. On this day you are asked to consider making positive changes in your life and appreciating the positive things you already have. To kick off the morning I am heading to an 8am Bikram Yoga class then to pick up some goodies that I am preparing for this evening.
This evening I am planning on getting together with few friends for food, drinks, and vision boarding. I have been promising to do some vision boarding since the summer and EYL-Day seems like a perfect time to do it.
I think this can be a really positive experience in general. However, the key to doing it well is to 1. Participants should be people you trust and don’t mind opening up to 2. It does not have to be serious and somber…fun is highly encouraged 3. Make it an event. Along with dinner and vision boarding I am bringing along Love Actually to kick off the holiday season and who knows what else we may get in to.
So if you can, take some time this weekend either with close friends or alone and think about where you would like to see your life go in the next 3, 6, or 12 months. Who knows, what comes out may surprise you.
Here are a couple of resources to get you going on EYL Day courtesy of International Coach Federation and Mitch Meyerson
Five questions to ask yourself:
- Where are you?
- Describe your current situation in three words.
- Think back to who you were five years ago. Are you (today) where you thought you would be?
- Where are you headed? Is it where you want to be? (If it isn’t, how can you get on the path you want to be on?)
- What adjustments must you make?
I once saw this post on Facebook of how to approach an apprehensive dog and I hope it catches on. It is such a simple and wonderful idea.
I certainly need to buy Andy a yellow ribbon.
My boy. My sweet, crazy boy. Seriously, Andy gets me through a great deal. He is so funny and sweet–he is truly the love of my life. I often credit him with why it was meant for me to relocate back to Louisville. If I had not moved here, I would have never had the chance to meet him and I worry about where he would have ended up.
My boy is a bit of a challenge around men and other animals, but we have come a looooong way. It gets to the point now that I can not hear the word Andy without getting all gooey, which is not a good thing when you are in work meetings. The CEO where I work now knows I go to a happy place whenever he says Andy and as a result–I am likely not listening anymore…oops.
As I mentioned, Andy started out as a foster and after a year of potential folks deciding to not adopt him because of the way he reacts to men and other animals…I adopted him. I have learned so much about him and myself which I did not expect.
For example, I have always knew I did not want children due to the fact, I thought I would be a terrible mom. I am impatient which makes me a terrible nurturer and honestly I don’t like being bothered all the time…I don’t have time for that. However, since I have had Andy, I realized my concern was not that I am terrible at nurturing but I am a Woody Allen type worrier. My kid would have to live in a bubble! I will always consider the worst case scenario. In short, Andy has changed my mind on that–given the appropriate time of course.
More importantly I have learned about Andy. Andy’s aggression is because of two things: fear and not understanding how to react. Andy is brave, the only thing that truly scares him are people. To me that says a lot. He is unshaken by fireworks, thunder, and the vacuum. But if a man reaches down to touch him, he loses it. He does this with some women too but usually when he feels vulnerable. We have gotten to a point where he will tolerate a male if the male is sitting and allows Andy to come to him. The man must not initiate contact and if he has food that helps too 🙂 I have also Andy learned is not the best running partner. He sniffs every blade of grass and lifts his leg to “pee” way too much and most of the time he is not even peeing. Also, Andy has the habit of stopping at not the greatest times and sits, lays, or roll around in the grass (you know I have photos).
- My little loveball
Thanks for letting me share on Andy…I will do my best to keep you posted on our adventures together.
No equipment, just you.
It was a ridiculous summer. I took a break from my masters program and decided to get some rest and regroup. On top of that there were things I had to deal with at work and a lot of other stuff. Through all the change and challenge what kept me sane was the stability and peace of mind I received from doing hot yoga. I’ve done Bikram, Hot Vinyasa, Hot Fusion, and Hip and Torso conditioning to keep my knees and hip aligned for running.
Looking back I don’t know what I would have done to cope this summer without hot yoga being an option. I enjoy the fact I can go into a yoga class and be led with a group but I don’t have to talk to anyone and I don’t have to focus on anything else but my movements and my body.
I have become so in tune with my body that in late August when I felt my energy level drop and my temperature spiked a bit, I new something was wrong. A week later I found a lump on my neck. Never look on WebMD when you find a lump anywhere and take it as law. WebMD made me think I had a tumor and I freaked out the best way I knew how–by trying not to take it seriously. However, I did decide it was prudent to go to the doctor. The doctor informed me it was a swollen lymph-node.
I credit being observant of my body to hot yoga. Before I was so blah that I would have never noticed much of anything except craving toxic foods which can also lead to stress.
Hot yoga allows me the chance to sweat out the small stuff literally and figuratively. I get a lot of thinking done in the hour and a half I am there and one of my favorite things is coming to the realization that somethings are not as important as I initially thought they were.
Photo of Parry Ernsberger from HelloGiggles.com
I ran across this great post on HelloGiggles.com this morning and I had to share. Parry Ernsberger wrote a very relevant article titled, Finding Happy Things in Unhappy Places. The awesomeness and amazeballs timing of this piece is ridiculous. I have been having this conversation with a couple of my friends and we are honestly making plans to work together to get our crap in check.
Fortunately, none of us are dealing with a broken heart but unhappy, negative places we can write volumes about. Personally, I can fill the first two…just being honest. There are several things that Parry hits on that are so spot on that I felt like I wrote them myself.
Before the critics jump in and say she is whining or our generation is full of babies…blah, blah, blah. I believe this article is the complete opposite of that. With most slumps, in order to get out of them you have to go through the phases. The most important thing is how you handle moving forward. Anyone can sit and complain but Parry does something awesome by making a plan and taking a risk.
So here is snip from the article below. To read the entire article hop on over to HelloGiggles.com.
Most people think you’ve already made it when you move to New York City. “New YAWK!” they would exclaim when I returned home to North Carolina for the first time since my move. “Don’t you just looove it?” people would coo before offering up their own favorite part of the city, which usually included a department store trip or a Broadway show or some “cute little restaurant” in Soho. “Best city in the world!” I’d nod with gritted teeth. I didn’t just love it. And I wasn’t going to Soho for anything, ever.
I made my first slow cooker meal today. I love my Crock Pot. It is the perfect kitchen tool for busy folks. In the middle of work, keeping up with Andy, fitting in a work out, school, studying, and quality time with family & friends cooking is often the last thing I want to think about. With the slow cooker (I prefer recipes with little-to-no prep) I can put everything in the pot at night, let it cook while I am asleep and pack it for lunch in the morning…perfection. The rest I use for leftovers 🙂
Some of my favorite dishes are cilantro-lime chicken, chicken and dumplings, ropa-veija, beans, and taco soup 🙂
Here is the recipe for my southern-style pinto beans:
1 package- 20oz Pinto Beans
1 (seasoning option) bullion, pork hocks or pork jowl
1 Large red onion
2 cloves of fresh garlic
5-6 cups of water (enough to cover the beans)
Kosher salt (to taste)
1/2 tsp. Black Pepper
1/2 tsp. Red Pepper
1/2 tsp. Thyme
1/2 tsp. Rosemary
1 Bay Leaf
Instructions: Rise beans thoroughly and rid the beans of debris and possible rocks. Chop onion and garlic. Add cleaned beans, water, and all seasoning except salt into the slow cooker and cook on low for 10 hours. Around the 9th hour, add salt.
Here is a look at my finished product.
Southern-style pinto beans. My mom’s recipe with my own twist.