Careerist: Life or something similar

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I ran across this great post on this morning and I had to share. Parry Ernsberger wrote a very relevant article titled, Finding Happy Things in Unhappy Places. The awesomeness and amazeballs timing of this piece is ridiculous. I have been having this conversation with a couple of my friends and we are honestly making plans to work together to get our crap in check.

Fortunately, none of us are dealing with a broken heart but unhappy, negative places we can write volumes about. Personally, I can fill the first two…just being honest. There are several things that Parry hits on that are so spot on that I felt like I wrote them myself.

Before the critics jump in and say she is whining or our generation is full of babies…blah, blah, blah. I believe this article is the complete opposite of that. With most slumps, in order to get out of them you have to go through the phases. The most important thing is how you handle moving forward. Anyone can sit and complain but Parry does something awesome by making a plan and taking a risk.

So here is snip from the article below. To read the entire article hop on over to

Most people think you’ve already made it when you move to New York City. “New YAWK!” they would exclaim when I returned home to North Carolina for the first time since my move. “Don’t you just looove it?” people would coo before offering up their own favorite part of the city, which usually included a department store trip or a Broadway show or some “cute little restaurant” in Soho. “Best city in the world!” I’d nod with gritted teeth. I didn’t just love it. And I wasn’t going to Soho for anything, ever.


Reblog: The Skinny on PR- Why Social Media is Important

No more Ms. Nice Girl

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That’s it! I’ve had it, seriously. It seems like every time I do something nice, I get kicked in the ass all the time. I’m over it! All my life I have done the right thing, ignored and walked away from situations where I really wanted


to lose it and what do I have to show for it…NOTHING! Sure people say she is so nice and pleasant–but dammit pleasant don’t do a thing.

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It’s seriously just is my nature. I don’t even think about it {being nice} until someone makes me aware it. For example, I have an elderly neighbor who gets the newspaper delivered daily. The lazy newspaper man just throws it toward her door, never checking to see if it actually gets to her. SO in steps stupid me…ugghh! Every morning as I walk out to walk Andy I stop pick up the paper and put it on the mat in front of her door–really, every morning. My rationale is that she will simply have to open the door and bend down and not scoot out the house and pick up the paper. No one ask that I do this and I don’t expect any reward, it just seems right.

Okay, so this is not saving the world but hey, its the little things, right?

I have my own daily stress but I still manage to call those people close to me and check to see how they are doing and so on. Do they even remotely return the sentiment? NO!! They only call when the need or want something–all the while still never bothering to even ask, “How are things going?” Most times they don’t even give a greeting and go right into what they need and what is bothering them–I’m not exaggerating here; people do this to me on a daily basis.

So, I’ve had enough! I’m done. I am verbally flipping you the bird and saying “Back the off and show some consideration!” From now on there is no more Ms. Nice Girl. Talk s*it, you’re getting it back and I don’t care if you’re feelings get hurt. This will now take place in every part of my life work, school, family life, strangers–you name it, they gettin’ it.nice girls dont get it

After doing some research on being too nice, I found out that this is a thing and there are books and a movement on The Nice Girl Syndrome.

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Besides, as I have learned from the title of this book–s*it’s about to get real.why men marry bitches

Hey girl, Why you writing that blog?

keys projectI have been asked this question more than once and I have also wondered if I should explain my intentions. So, okay. I initially started this blog to see if it would be good for work…it wasn’t. But I periodically came back and posted things here and there just because…well, just because I could. It’s fun and also an outlet. I get to express myself and hopefully find some validation on my random musings.

Then came the point, I became so involved with life I was just going to abandon ship on the blog because it had solved its main purpose. However in January of 2013–my half way point through my masters program, I landed in digital media studies. In this class one of our projects is to utilize some sort of social media for an autoethnography (An autoethnography is a form of autobiographical personal narrative that explores the writer’s experience of life). Part of the criteria of the project is to immerse yourself in a social media that you never used or rarely used. Since I am on Facebook, Twitter, Youtube, Flickr, and more for work, I am pretty well versed in most popular social media forms; so instead I chose this blog.
For this project I will continue to write original posts and include some reblogs in an effort to get you the reader to hopefully respond and interact with me. You can do this by commenting on post, liking posts, and sharing posts. I have been working on this for the past two weeks and I am pleasantly surprised by the feedback so far, but I hope to get more comments in the final two weeks before I collect my data.


So please be kind and help me get an “A”!

Reblog: Applebee’s Faces Backlash

Applebee’s faces backlash over the firing of stiffed wait staff. It seems that the folks over at Applebee’s need a course in social media and crisis management. The fact they continued to respond in the wee hours of the morning and bury evidence is poor strategy and a form of censorship of their customers.

R.L. Stollar //// Overturning Tables

Hell hath no fury like a Facebook scorned. In today’s digital age, most of us assume everyone understands this fact. But every now and again, people surprise us. An ever-increasing element of this reality is that the hounds of Reddit, the Twitter armies, and Facebook vigilantes are more than willing to remind people that we live in a publicized world. You can’t hide behind privacy statements or legal jargon or appeals to company policy to pacify an Internet mob. Once you cross the line of Internet etiquette, the people of the World Wide Web will hunt you down and do their best to ruin you forever.

Applebee’s apparently never took note of this. You’ve most likely heard about their most recent encounter with virality. But in case you’ve been living under a rock, here’s a brief summary:

A waitress at a St. Louis Applebee’s lost her job for…

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Careerist: How Do You Know When You Are Burned Out?

I ran across this great article on Learnvest.  Learnvest is a pretty cool website that is targeted toward women.  Its post are on life, finances, and so on.

I saw the article at a very interesting time as I have been on bed rest and have had tons of time to think and contemplate…everything.  Written by Gabrielle Karol (I always liked the name Gabrielle) the article titled Why Women Are Burning Out at Work Before 30 hit extremely close to home.  I have to admit I have displayed all the symptoms mentioned in the article (as well has hair loss, weight gain, skin issues) and so have some people I know.  We however came up with other reasons for the issues.  We figured we were just not sure what we really wanted. Because who was really happy at what they were doing and where their life was?

Get this, apparently IT’S A PANDEMIC!!  The article states, “Burnout is a psychological stress syndrome that occurs as a “response to chronic emotional and interpersonal stressors on the job.” Besides feelings of excessive stress, burnout can ruin personal relationships and cause fatigue, insomnia, depression and anxiety.”

Check out the article and share what you think?

What I’m Watching: Scandal on ABC

I have been so excited  for four months to see Scandal with Kerry Washington.   Since,  I first heard the premise of the show and the fact that the beautiful and talented  Kerry Washington was leading the cast which includes Guillermo Diaz (LOVE) I knew I had to watch.  However, I do have another motive for watching the show…She is a crisis communicator!!!!!  I have always admired those with the job of  making you see a new side to what is there.  I hope to do more in that capacity one day…I do a bit of it at work now, but it does not really count, because I work for an organization with an incredible mission.

But, just to get myself prepared for the future I am currently in grad school pursuing my Masters Degree to enhance my understanding of the theories behind communication and this show so far has hit on a couple…I can’t wait see more! 


The first episode was good!  It had a few of those awkward camera moments; that most new shows have but I am sure it will find its way soon.  Did I mention this is a Shonda Rhimes project…it is, so you know it has to be the BUSINESS.  Also, the fashions should be pretty sweet too for the young professional sect.  FYI…Kerry gives great insight on the show and who she wears on Twitter her handle is @kerrywashington.

Another notable tidbit I found out about this show is, Kerry Washington is the first black female lead in primetime on a major network in like THREE DECADES!!

That is exciting for many reasons and it is even more exciting because it is a good show because time is too precious to be watching crap…just saying.

Scandal is on ABC, Thursday night at 10pm EST after Grey’s Anatomy.  Check it out.